It's nothing personal
I have decided to simplify my life. (Perhaps this is nesting come a bit early.) My neighborhood grew too large for me to keep up with everyone and I have done some trimming. Some people's blogs I never read, some hadn't updated for months (some had been so long I forgot why I added them in the first place), and some I found I just didn't have a common bond with. I am putting this post up because I do not want to email every person I trimmed or will trim in the future and explain my decision (I know some expect correspondence when cut and I just don't think I can or want to do that).
I can assure you that you are likely a very lovely person, but I am evaluating the amount of time I spend on this site and the reasons why. I have never been of the "have the largest neighborhood" mentality and I want the connections I make here to be meaningful. If my community is too large, I simply cannot keep up with you and I believe that having you in my neighborhood means something more than you being a mere face on the screen.
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Nesting--I love that word as applied to pregnancy. It just resonates with me-- makes me remember how it felt the very first time it happened--it's quite a lovely feeling.
You are so much more considerate than I about neighbour trimming. I just hacked away a bunch because just cannot do it anymore. Plus, yes, many I had no idea how they got there--that's not much a a relationship, neighbourly or otherwise.
xx
Maintaining your neighborhood is an important thing.
I need to do the same thing.
VOX and blogging is supposed to be fun and relaxing. If it is getting stressful then it is time to make changes.
I love 'nesting' it is such an awesome thing, especially if you know that is what is driving you.
I did a little trimming of my own a few days ago..so I know exactly what you mean. I used to add anyone who added me (being "neighbourly" I guess) but eventually it's too hard to keep up with everyone.
I hope it helps you, too.
The first time I heard 'nesting' as applied to 'expecting' was in "It's A Wonderful Life", when George Bailey asked his wife, 'Mary - you on the nest?'
I need to do some weeding as well - I don't even think some people are lurking!
I find when my neighbourhood gets too big I sort of start just ignoring everyone because I get overwhelmed with it.
You are so considerate to put out such a explaination - truly! What a great example of Vox etiquette. :-)
I always appreciate the way you word things. And I think this is a really classy post. Sometimes I just want to sit you down and pick your brain. :)
Personally, I feel like it would be better if Vox implemented more effective ways to track those you care about, how you care about them - ahem, personalized home pages and security groups.
Just reminding you..... <3
Your blog, your choice, your time, your interests.
It is, however, always appreciated when someone posts saying 'look, no hard feelings but... spring clean' ~ been on Livejournal for about 5 years and there is definately a nice way of doing this :)
e_f, you're right in time for some sexy spring cleaning. Though jayd's got it right - it would be nice if there was a better way to classify your 'hood.
I don't think there's a need to apologize or anything, but you're incredibly nice to say so beforehand.
It's good to live lightly.
I've trimmed mine one or twice over the last year.
As it stands, it could actually stand another shaving.
After all, I'm not a self-proclaimed minimalist for nothin' ...
Well, at least keeping your neighborhood close is a good thing. It doesn't make sense to try to keep up with people you don't care about or aren't interested in keeping up with. Plus, like everyone else has been saying, your internet time should be measured by the quality of your interactions w/ others, not the quantity.